Dating a Korean Girl – Top meeting tips you should know

Last Updated on May 6, 2021 by 90 Day Korean
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Need some tips for dating a Korean girl? You’ve come to the right spot, we’ve got some things you definitely will want to know.

Maybe you have already set your sights on a lovely Korean lady. You’re not alone — women in Korea are absolutely sought after, and for good reason!

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While obviously everyone is different, it’s safe to say that there are plenty of beautiful, intelligent, interesting Korean women around the world, so more than likely you’ll fall pretty hard for a Korean woman at some point in your life.

There’s even a dating phenomenon called “Korean Fever”. Supposedly, once you date a Korean girl, you’ll never want to go back to dating women from any other country. You’ll have to see for yourself if there’s truth to that!

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Tips for dating a Korean girl

If you’re open to dating a Korean girl, there are some general dating practices and tips you should be aware of beforehand. While every girl is different, in general, many Korean women have similar expectations when dating and will utilize similar dating techniques.

Get these tips down and you’ll be that far ahead of the game! No one likes to be turned down, so you may as well make it as likely as possible that you’ll succeed if you’re planning on dating a cute Korean girl.

If you’re a foreigner, you’re an instant playboy

If you’re visiting Korea from another country on vacation or as a new resident of Korea, beware that you will instantly have some dating misconceptions assigned to you whether you like it or not.

In Korean dating culture, the assumption of visitors from other countries (especially young white men) is that you’re a player or a womanizer. It doesn’t matter if this couldn’t be further from the truth — it’s an instant association that gets made, so you’re pretty much walking around with the label “CAUTION: playboy” above your head as you make your way through Korea.

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Fear not! This is not an instant deal-breaker, and if you ask out a Korean girl that you have chemistry with, there’s a very good chance she’ll accept your invitation and go out with you. That being said, if you begin dating each other, she’ll also treat you as guilty until proven otherwise.

It’s more than likely that she’ll want to look through your texts and chat history, and she’ll probably comb through your social media to see if there is even a tiny bit of evidence that suggests that you’re a womanizer. If there is, you’re done. If there isn’t, she’ll slowly but surely begin to trust your intentions and your interest in her (and only her).

If your new girlfriend wants to go through your phone, don’t deny her request based on principle. It’s not that she doesn’t trust you, it’s that Korean culture is telling her you’re probably talking to other women. If it makes her feel more comfortable, you should consider it.

They’re worried about you thinking they’re “easy”

In Korean dating culture, something that women worry about is being perceived as an easy target by foreign men. If you’ve recently started dating a Korean woman, there’s a good chance that she’s apprehensive about whether or not you consider her “easy.”

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To help reassure your new lady that you don’t see her that way, make sure you treat her with respect. She’ll probably want to take the beginning stages of your relationship slowly until she’s sure that you’re committed to her and not just looking for a quick fling.

Slow down, treat her right, and you’ll have no problem!

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Be prepared to pull out your wallet

Ah, the age-old question — who should pay at the end of the date? Everyone has an opinion one way or another, and women in Korea are no different in that regard.

For decades, the norm has been that the man pays for not only the first date but also the majority of dates that the couple goes on. Splitting the bill was extremely uncommon, and the woman on the date was not expected to pay for any portion of the date — not even after dinner, drinks, or dessert.

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While this has been considered normal and still is by many, Korean dating culture has begun to shift to a more modern paradigm. The man is still expected to pay for dinner, but if she’d like to, the woman on the date might pay for after dinner soju or ice cream. The couple would then take turns paying for each stop of the evening — so, for example, if the man paid for dinner, the woman would then pay for soju, then the man could pay for ice cream, etc.

The moral of the story is to assume that you’ll need to pay, but don’t keep your new girlfriend or date from paying if she’s like to pick up the tab for dessert or coffee. If that happens, then you’d pick up the next check. If she doesn’t offer, assume that if you’d like to continue this relationship you’ll need to pay for everything the two of you do socially.

As far as gifts go, most women in Korea will be receptive to you conveying your affections with lavish gifts which most Korean women will expect. Be open to spending big on birthday gifts, and be prepared to also purchase gifts for each of the love-centric Korean holidays like Valentine’s Day and White Day. There’s also one every month on the 11th (yes, seriously), so these don’t have to be as large as a gift for the anniversary or celebrating her date of birth. 

Korean women are good at dating

If you don’t know it yet, Korean girls are good at dating. While anyone can go on dates, dating itself can also be a sport if you’re good at it, and Korean women are champions. So be prepared to compete!

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When a Korean girl becomes your girlfriend, of course, she’ll demonstrate loyalty and commitment. But until that happens, be prepared to be at her mercy. She’ll likely know how to turn on the charm and somehow be cute, mysterious, and seductive all at once!

Before you consider approaching a cute Korean girl, be warned! If she sets her sights on you, you’re going nowhere. Enjoy it — they call it “Korean Fever” for a reason, and you’ll catch that fever soon enough.

You’re competing through social media

When you’re dating a Korean girl, you’re competing with everyone constantly, whether you like it or not. It simply happens through social media.

Social media, just like Facebook and Instagram, is huge all over the world, but in Korea, it’s larger than life. When you take your Korean girlfriend to a fancy dinner or buy her a lavish gift, she will take photos of it and post them to every social media and instant messaging platform. In this way, her friends that follow her can see it instantly. Get used to being on a chat app to keep her attention!

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While social media can be great because it lets you keep in touch with friends from afar and stay connected to your social circle, it can also cause a lot of pressure and anxiety for both the girl and the guy in the relationship. If you’re sharing everything with people who follow you, it means that you’re comparing yourself to everybody. 

As a result, your girlfriend will likely feel the need to measure up to what her friends are displaying from their lives. If someone else is on a nice vacation, you’ll probably want to start planning one as well. Similarly, you’ll feel the need to blow your girlfriend away with the gifts and dates you plan so you give her something to really be excited about.

While it sounds exhausting, this also means a lot of fun! You’ll be enjoying beautiful restaurants and making your new girlfriend happy with beautiful gifts. You can also remind your girlfriend that social media only highlights the best from her friends’ lives and not their bad days.

Korean girls are educated and expect you to be, too

If you’re currently dating a cute Korean girl, one of the things that probably attracted you to her initially was her intelligence and her quick wit. Three-quarters of the adult women in Korea have a university education, so you’ll definitely be having high-minded conversations with your lady.

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This also means you need to make sure your Korean language skills are sharp so you can keep up and have interesting conversations! Nobody wants a boring date (or a boring boyfriend). 

Make an effort to communicate with your Korean girlfriend

Some of the tips above arise from Korean culture and others from more recent pop culture and trends. The most important tip that we can share with you, is to learn to speak some Korean.

This will open up better communication and she’ll speak more comfortably with you. It’s going to be a win-win situation since you get to learn a new skill and your Korean girlfriend will appreciate your effort in understanding her better! Even starting with a few words helps. Learning Korean is easy and fun if you have a solid plan.

If your Korean language skills aren’t where they should be and you want to brush up on them quickly, check out our 90 Minute Challenge and learn the Korean alphabet in just an hour and a half! It’s a small investment to make for all the return you’ll get — the ability to ask out the cute Korean girl you have your eye on. 

Where to Meet Korean Women

So what if you haven’t met the Korean woman for you yet? Don’t worry for we have come up with sites to help you find your soon-to-be Korean girlfriend!

Dating apps and sites 

If you’re looking for a perfect match online, there are several sites that are famous in Korea. Korean Cupid, Tinder, and Bumble are a few of the top sites you might want to visit if you’re looking for a Korean woman to date.

Language exchange

Dating sites are not the only place where you can find a match. Going to Korean language exchanges can help you meet different people including Korean women and you’ll get to learn a new language!

Good luck!

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    63 replies to "Dating a Korean Girl – Top meeting tips you should know"

    • Avatar for Overton Patrick Overton Patrick

      I love korea. Ways i whould like getting along with a Korean girl

    • Avatar for BEP BEP

      Nice tips. Yes Korean girls are beautiful and sensible. I would like to friend ship with true such girl

    • Avatar for BEP BEP

      nice tips

    • Avatar for Kh Kh

      One thing, for the payment part. If the woman likes the dating and wants to meet and continue the relationship with you, they expect u to pay dinner (so she can insist, ‘ okay next time i will pay dinner or why dont can we go for drinks? I will pay on this time) means they make some excuses to meet you next time too. But if she didnt like the dating with you, usually we ask the bill ‘splits’. That means, equally paid. so there is nothing that women owes from you and there is no any reason to meet you next time.

    • Avatar for Rajan Rajan

      I love korean drama
      I like korean girl
      i need friends in Korean

      • Avatar for 90 Day Korean 90 Day Korean

        That’s great. ^^

        • Avatar for Yuna Yuna

          Hey I’m korean

          • Avatar for Abhijeet Abhijeet

            Are you really korean?

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